Just when you’re making sense of things….
My daughter died yesterday.
Now I can’t make sense of anything.
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Oh Lisa !
I don’t know what to say. Words will never be enough.
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@LisaP Here and hugging and sitting alongside you in heartbreak.
I wouldn’t try to make sense of anything. Just feel us with you, supporting you and sending you love and condolences. No words, just love
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I do not have any words. Can only tell you that I and others are thinking of you right now. Echo Victoria and Chris- can only send love and cyber support.
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Oh no!!! I’m so sorry, there are no words that I can say.
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So sorry for your loss, you are in everyone’s thoughts here. x
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@LisaP
How devastating for you. I’m so very sorry to read this. Staring at the screen wondering what to say. Nothing will come into my mind. We are all here for you xx
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such heartbreaking news. Sending (((hugs)))) and cyber support. Reach out to us as much as you need.
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I am so sorry to hear of another loss for you . Truly awful, and so very unfair. X
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Desperately sorry. Life seems so unfair at times.
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Oh, Lisa…no words. Just sending hugs.
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Lisa, like others I have no words to say that will help you understand your loss. Sending hugs
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Hi @LisaP Just stopping by to check how you are coping - or not coping. In our thoughts. C&G xx
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I’ve spent a couple days in the house by myself. It appears with Kat gone I don’t really have anyone. Everyone has someone and I don’t.
And I’m finding this very difficult. I miss who my daughter was. I miss our relationship.
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@LisaP I hear you. Sending hugs. It’s absolutely normal that you’re finding all this difficult and I’m sure discombobulating!
We’re here to chat if and when you need us. Check over in Roll Call if you’d like a bit of distraction-chat.
Whatever and however you feel is going to be tough, sending many hugs.
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Lisa, I didn’t want anyone in the house with me after my husband died suddenly. No need for any pretence, no one else to be brave for. I cried and cried at times, when I needed to. If you are not sleeping, ask your GP for something to help you. 3am in the morning I was doing accounts for a while! Most of all, be kind to yourself. You will get through this, somehow.
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@LisaP Just wondering how you are getting along. You said you feel you have no-one but you have the Community on here. Look how everyone opened their arms to you when you broke the news of Kat’s diagnosis and we are still here for you now.
I’ve found in the last few weeks how much love and affinity there is from everyone. If you need or want to talk, shout, scream or just cry, we are here with no judgement, just love and shoulders to cry on. You don’t have to be alone while we are here for you. 
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Apologies for not replying sooner. It has been a little bit of a rollercoaster to be honest. Losing a child is the hardest thing. It felt like Kat had been forgotten about while I tried to process my daughter dying.
There was a post mortem - we still do not have a cause. We were able to have a funeral but are still waiting for the outcome of reports.
I am back at work today. I am trying to navigate my life on my own which is quite difficult. Someone told me to ‘get on with it’ the other day - I am trying to do that, but its hard.
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That sounds a bit cruel to me. “Just get on with It” is very very hard and usually said by people who have never been through any kind of trauma themselves. I am thinking of you and sending strength.
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Dear Lisa.
You do not need to apologise - you have been through such trauma over the last few months and I am not sure I could have coped with all of that. I just wanted to let you know we are all thinking of you and others have asked me if I am in touch with you as they are concerned too. It’s the way the Family on the Forum works
Kat will never be forgotten while you draw breath, she will be in your mind and in your heart all day every day. That’s what love is all about, so don’t feel you have ignored her, she is half a step back while you dealt with the other trauma. If there is anyone who would understand, it would be her.
Good to read you are back to work and I hope your employer is being supportive. Had I been in your position and someone told me to “get on with it” then would have got such a mouthful. That is such a callous thing to say - clearly they have never loved anyone enough to even start to understand the loss you feel. If you possibly can - just never deal with them again.
Please be assured we are here for you and you are not forgotten on here, just as we all share your loss of Kat and then your daughter. Always here for you if and when you need some support. Graham is in hospital but the other day was asking if I’d heard from you, which goes to prove you are not forgotten.
Thoughts, prayers and tears are with you.
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