Hi i may be one of the lucky ones ,as i do manage to get out 4 times a week when other carers come in to assist my wife with her personal needs, might be just enough time to go to the shops ,i no longer have a social life and i could really do with a holiday, so answer me this if you can , where do i get the carers from to come and look after my wife , my own agency does not have the resources to cover it, and when i phone around other agency’s they dont want to take on even if they could as i already have an agency in place, and to make thins worse ,my wife does not deal with new faces so to change over would not be viable., plus my agency is one of the cheapest at £22 p hour , when you phone other agencys any way they can not gaurantee that they could cover for a weeks holiday so its always a struggle , what makes all this worse is that i am no longer in a marrage ,i am just a carer and i get reminded of the fact ,so would i take advantage of female companionship ( absolutely )
I can relate with pretty much all the points raised above. Even though I was not looking after my grandmother full-time, i was there almost every day. It got too much, both for me and my mum. We were exhausted, both mentally and physically. I finally convinced her to get a private carer for her after 3 years. We are still there around 3 times a week, we try to go visit as much as possible, as she’s got Dementia. During that time it was really hard to hope and I found a lot of good advice online. I’ll leave some useful resources for you all. /https://www.mind.org.uk/media/859562/how-to-cope-as-a-carer/https:/If anyone wants to reach out, you can pm me to speak more.
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