Thanks. I have bought it. Just waiting for it to arrive.
I know I can be happy, and I want to be happy. I really do. I’m just so downtrodden because I have just put up with over two years of hell from her. I miss how things used to be. I used to be the idiot who would get a train to london on my own without a care in the world. Now I can’t go to the supermarket without worrying if I will get a call about what condition mum is in, whether she has been taken into police custardy. No I am not responsible for her. I have told social services that a million times. I have told family and friends that a million times. I gave up ages ago. I am fed up of feeling like everyone puts on me.
One of my favourite things in the world right now is just driving with my sister and having the stupidest of conversations. I also drive everyday to work through a rural area, and I have never ever got bored of it. People say to me, i am mad for travelling like i do. I always say the same, I love it. The drives started in lockdown, I only got my car a couple of months before it happened. When people could travel again, I would practice driving and soon after dad was diagnosed with cancer the drives became a method of just getting out the house. It gave me and my sister a chance to reflect.
That all went when dad died, because mum would not be left alone. I soon got the interview at the place I am at now, which I still say was meant to be. The first time I ever drove out of my home town was for this interview. I remember driving and looking at the road signs thinking ‘How the hell do you get to 60 on these roads?’ I am now a seasoned professional even if the speed limit has changed.
Recently, those drives started again. I have decided that this month, I don’t care if I don’t save any money because I just want to focus on getting my head straight, and coming out of a situation with good memories. On Friday, we travelled my route to work on an evening when it was mid evening, I kind of felt better after that. We had our usual stupid conversations. On Saturday we were limited due to the football game in the area, but on Sunday we decided to go charity shop hunting as we do. Before long we decided to go somewhere else on a whim.
The thing about me is, I am still very cautious about driving on motorways, I am okay with them and know how to do them, but have still feared them. I suppose it comes down to the fact, that no one else in my family drives, so I didn’t grow up around all of that. I haven’t done them that much though only maybe less than 10 times in the past few years. I have always been slightly nervous on approach to them, and for a short while on them. Yesterday, nothing whatsoever. To me, that feeling of just getting away was so much stronger than anything. Its that what makes me feel contempt with the world. I loved it.
The trip was planned on a whim really, although I wanted to go to a certain shop they had at this place. The original plan was that we would go this Sunday because there is a comic con in the area. In the heat of the moment, I just said ‘sod it’. Were going again this Sunday.
I really want to be better, and I know I can be. At the moment, I feel trapped in a lifestyle I have no control over. I would always say to K, how much I wanted to go on holidays with him and how much I wanted to be that idiot who travels again.
It sounds silly, but I want to see the sun reflecting on trees. I want to feel the air, and see all the fields.