Hi again. I haven’t been on for a few days. I guess I have been trying to work on myself abit more. After my diagnosis a week ago I realised the NHS is barely going to help me so I must take matters into my own hands. I just need to focus on myself too.
I also continued to have a lot of issues with my car as I may of mentioned. My previous car didn’t take too well to the repair work that was done to it and it failed. I had to buy a new one. I have now got that car, but it too was in the garage for a few days waiting for a minor part proving to be rather stressful. None the less I have a new car, one slightly larger than I am used to, but I will get used to it.
Other than that I am just feeling rather defeated really almost burnt out in a half sort of way. It’s like I can carry on as normal by myself, but I just cannot deal with extra stresses anymore. I just do not have the energy. I am also upset because I feel like the support I receive is going to be ripped from me. I will make a call to the carers service tomorrow and explain that I am still caring. My role hasn’t changed.
If I am not caring why am I still the one making sure there is gas and electric. Why am I dealing with things for her. Why am I doing all her forms and money management including paying bills. Why does she always turn to me instead of anyone else. Because I am a carer and one that needs support that is why. I am 26 years old but only by age I am still a kid really, one without a support network so many people are used to. I don’t have grandparents, aunt, uncles to help me. I am the eldest sibling too. I have no one to turn to meaning I need that support.
The carer support worker wasn’t my usual one. She was a stand in whilst the other is on annual leave. My normal one was assigned to me because she works with carers who work. However this person seemed to suggest I don’t need support because I don’t attend the carer support groups.
I feel discriminated against, these groups are not for me and I don’t want to go. Nor can I go to them because of my job. They always take place in the middle of the day. I also don’t work in the same county (technically). If I don’t have a job, how do I pay rent, how do I eat and so on. It is just not fair. I am not being paid a pittance on carers allowance just to tick a box for support. Isn’t that what the service is for to encourage people to work or go into education and help them have a life of their own.
I work. I care. I never stop and it is stressful simple as. I will be contacting the carers service tomorrow as I feel it is going to be ripped from me.
No, I don’t attend these groups, but I don’t believe they will stop me feeling so scared all the time. I used my support worker to discuss how to do things such as fill in applications, discuss issues and so on because these people know more than I do. They also know the workings of social services and how to get support. They have also helped me with personal things too such as carers cards, funds and advice about accessing other support. I do not want this to stop.
Mum also continues to be annoying and I simply cannot wait for her to be offered a place on assisted living. So far there has been no word from the team whatsoever suggesting nothing has come available. Mum hasn’t heard anything either so all we can assume is she is still on the list. I just want it to happen a lot faster.