Hi again.
So I have a question regarding getting help for suspected adult autism. Due to mums behavioural issues/lack of responsibility, I do think she has autism or something similar.
I am personally getting so fed up of official people saying to me that I am not responsible for mum, however when something goes wrong I am the first to have to deal with it. No one else wants to bother. If it wasn’t for me mum would be on the streets, it doesn’t matter how many duty of cares exist if no one wants to follow it.
I personally don’t trust most social workers.
I just cannot live my life on standby anymore. I am fed up of being told when I should and should not be expected to step in. One minute I am being told I am not responsible, and then I am asked to do something. It is really unfair.
We have started to suspect that she is most likely to have autism, and struggles with her social surroundings or what is expected of her. She largely gets along with people, and loves being very sociable. She loves music, and games and stuff. However she relies on things being fun and entertaining. She also loves going to the pub, however she is in no ways an alcoholic nor a heavy drinker, she loves the music and the lights.
However, the pub is no place for disabled adults. However, there is nothing I can do about this. She has been taken advantage of for far too long.
The latest incident is very minor, however it exasperates just what is going on. She was out with a friend. Her friend really encouraged her to let her in her property for ‘a drink of water.’ Mum said that she wanted to go to bed, however the friend did not accept this and asked again. The friend was laughing very loud in the corridors and woke a neighbour who complained. Mum got into trouble about this. She was very upset about getting into trouble, and she couldn’t understand why it happened.
Mum has three warnings before she receives a letter, and further incidents could impact her tenancy. We just cannot deal with her being homeless again.
I think it is horrible that they have chosen to blame mum for this. I spoke to the lettings manager, and they said that it is mums fault for letting them in, however this person wouldn’t stop and was insisting that she got a drink. She only lives a few mins away too.
I have since also told the friend off (she is the same age as me). I was calm, but they weren’t really accepting what I was saying, and said ‘Its not her fault that people have it in for mum.’ 'No! You were loud. People have a right to complain. I said to the lettings manager that she was responsible not my mum. I wouldn’t go into this place and start shouting.
I do think to receive a half warning for one noise complaint is extremely unfair. A conversation would suffice. Then again I do think this lettings manager has let people off worse things.
Its driving my mental health mad. There’s talk of moving mum on again into a better place, she has just gone on some waiting lists again.
I am so scared about her getting evicted, I cant deal with it all again. My OCD has been at its absolute peak for about a week because of it even though this incident happened a couple of weeks ago.
Apparently, the lettings manager will change soon though and its going to be someone who is more care focused. They will be on site more and more. Hopefully they will be more considerate, the current one just seems to want to take the easy approach.
In my head I am going through things over and over, and it is driving me mad. I cannot make it stop. I cant eat because of it, yet I have been throwing up.
I have spoken to mum about keeping quiet, and she understands
I have submitted a request to speak to the doctor, but the first appointment I could get is Tuesday.
I have looked around for supported accommodation in other ways for mum, but its all allocated through the council. I am still waiting to hear back from the carers people, does anyone have any ideas?
Thank you