I’m 66 and retired. I support my Mum who is 92 and in a care home nearby. She is extremely physically disabled but mentally ok. I feel I have to be constantly on at the care home all the time and as soon as one issue is resolved something else comes up. Today it was that her laundry hadn’t been done for several days. Brought home a big bag of urine sodden pants etc to wash at home, as she’d run out of undies. Couldn’t leave that stinking away in her room. I know there’s much worse goes on of course but I just get so weary dealing with it all. How do you pick yourself up and get going again to deal with it all ? Just needed to vent. Best wishes to all my fellow carers out there.
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Talk to CQC, the home is failing mum, and almost inevitably others too.
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@PutneyPal, I too am having issues with the care home in Salford. It’s awful when your relative is unfairly treated. Even worse when you try to talk to staff about her issues. I too am having similar problems, especially lack of communication. Getting information out of staff is like the equivalent of pulling teeth. Excruciating. Don’t beat yourself up. You are doing your best. If the staff get rude to you, contact your local care authorites.
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Hi i am caring for my Husband in a care home too. I choose to do his laundry though because he has very bad excema and alot of things affect him. Its taken me ages to get the care home to listen to anything and like yourself i feel i am always saying something about things that arent right, im finding things go missing, hes not been shaved sometimes, not clean not drinking my list is endless. I am sorry you are elso going through problems like Bowling Ball suggested the CQC are the best course of action, i have contacted them myself and they do check things out…
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@Jackie66, it sounds like the care home is at fault. I too am trying little things to keep mum comfortable. Sometimes things have gone missing or broken. I might try CQC, see if anything happens.
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