I feel rather like I’m drowning at the moment and some self care is required (as let’s face it if I don’t rescue me, who else will?!)
This isn’t going to be easy … but I’m going to try and fit in something for me.
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Absolutely nothing It’s only 1pm and i’m questioning everything from life choices to who i am. I’m gonna go for a walk and clear my head. Self care is essential please look after yourself.
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@Melina_1806a
I hope your walk just for you does you some good.
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I like the idea of better boundary management; great in theory but harder to put into practice! 
My H doesn’t know the meaning of the words boundaries or personal space.
I hope you manage to fit something in for you @Melly1
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@EEG I interpreted it differently to you. I was thinking more along the lines, if I have 5 mins - I would usually choose to do a chore or something for S but instead I could do something for me.
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Yesterday, I did something I haven’t done for years. After morning walk and ensuring G was up and about safely, I sat in an armchair supported by two of my new cushions and went to sleep ! Dozed deeply for about 45 minutes and woke feeling so much better. That’s something I don’t usually allow myself to do. It felt SO good !!
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I was not going to go to my SB lunch tomorrow. But I messaged one of the other butterfly admins and she is going to give me a lift. Yes I do feel selfish BUT I so crave adult company for my own mental health. Not going to be an easy day as my mother having the SS assessment so will be waiting to hear from her neighbour - cannot get much sense out of my mother due to her deafness and confusion. I should only be out for around 2.5 hours.Yes I am terrified of husband trying to cook but generally it is later in the afternoon and should be home by 3pm. Cannot be kept prisoner.
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Does mum have a special phone for deaf people. I know BT used to have them available.
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She has Hearing Aids but I do not think she has the dexterity to put them in. She does not have a special phone but I can mention it to her neighbour. I can imagine trying to communicate with medical staff with pronounced accents would be mega difficult for her. I struggle to get her to hear me.
I made a ham sandwich for myself. Then I went to a cafe for some lunch on my own. After that I met a friend for a early drink at a new pub as well. We also had a quick early dinner too.
Lots of ‘me’ time for you then, Thara.
Had bath, washed hair, listened to a new CD whilst eating a Cornetto. : )
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Finished the John Marrs book ‘The Family Experiment’ yesterday and today read the Sunday Papers. Used a colour boosting shampoo on my hair this morning too.
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Had a lovely walk in the sunshine this afternoon - shorts for first time this year - thankfully no one else was about so didn’t have to apologise for the legs !! T-shirt came off too so things must be bad. Sorry for the image that has created for you. Was nice just to wander through the tractor tracks in the crops - not causing damage but wandering around aimlessly for half an hour.
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Just what you needed Chris. Hope you took some tissues?
I’ve definitely benefitted from my short break. Easier to think clearly away from home. I am determined to continue getting rid of “stuff” I don’t need any more. I’ve put something on Freecycle and something on eBay. More to follow. More tidying in my shed/shipping container. Some empty shelves now. More things going to Ukraine, they need them, I don’t. I’ve given “the evil eye” to more things which will be evicted tomorrow. We went to live in Australia for 3 years with a suitcase each, a handbag for me and my engineer husband’s toolbox. Living in a company flat we bought very little, and the flat was always tidy. As my arthritis gets worse, the less I have to care for the better.
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I had a cuppa in the sunshine today 
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Yeah. It is nice. Thank you
I sat in my room for an hour to listen to music and eat some chocolate which I had ordered with a grocery delivery. Then I went back downstairs to sit with Mum. It was nice to have a break.
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Sat on my bed! Strict instructions from the hospital to do nothing while antibiotics for cellulitis in my leg can work. I feel so much better now, leg still a bit pink. I’ve sorted my organiser pages, put things on Facebook marketplace, sorted fabric scraps to give away, now watching Drew Pritchard buying more stuff.
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