Hello, I visit my Mother-in-law regularly as she is cared for at home by Carers along with her husband and daughter. The daughter visits 3 x weekly. I am very worried about the treatment my Mother-in-law receives from her daughter. Mother and daughter have always had a fiery relationship. Now that my Mother-in-law is bedbound and blind she is very dependent on others.
Her daughter is very argumentative, which I have to accept. What I am really struggling with is her aggressive, bullying attitude towards her Mother. My Father-in-law backs his daughter up.
There is no physical abuse that I am aware of but the regular verbal assaults are often terrifying. All my conversations with my visits are recorded on a camera and I am often quizzed about this. I am beginning to notice some controlling elements as I am rarely left alone in the room to have a conversation or give a meal to my Mother-in-law. I have a very good relationship with her and enjoy my visits as she comes alive and is often quite lucid.
The visiting carers are amazing.
Unfortunately my sister-in-law and Father-in-law refuse any support, they say they don’t need it and it won’t help. They feel this is just a nasty vindictive person they are caring for.
Please can you advise me on how to go forward with this.
I feel I need support so that I can manage myself in this situation.
Thank you in advance.