Hi,
My dad (nearly 90) has been living with my husband and I for 8 years. He has just been in hospital with the flu and has been diagnosed with AF.
He is a very difficult man (always has been) and now, we are at the end of our tether. We have had no life for 8 years and he can’t/won’t do anything for himself. He cannot make his own meals when we are out as he has always refused to learn. When we are out at work, he won’t go to the toilet and urinates outdoors on the plants, killing them off. He hasn’t had a bath for years and smells bad, despite me nagging (I have let medical professionals know this). He won’t change his clothes unless I really nag him and then he goes into a major sulk. We can’t go on like this as our marriage is suffering- I feel my husband will leave because he can’t stand the situation anymore. He won’t give me power of Attorney so I can’t make any decisions and feel that this is my life now and sometimes I feel like killing myself just to get out of this awful situation. He has refused any external care and has been assessed physically as fit to get around. He has been referred to the memory clinic and we are waiting for an appointment with a social worker to have a family meeting.
My dad was abusive when we were younger- physically and emotionally, therefore my siblings have nothing to do with him although my brother says he will come to the meeting.
Is there any way we can get him out of our house, for the sake of our sanity?