My husband was diagnosed with Vascular Dementia a year ago, His condition worsened ( lockdown didn’t help) and his verbal abuse became physical by the end of August. He was taken away from our home in mid September (for my safety) and is now resident in a care home that specialises in dementia . I’m confident about the quality of his care but I find having things at arm’s length quite difficult. When he first became resident there was visiting, but only once a week and under v strict conditions.
No chance of getting to know staff, other residents and relatives. So no help for my settling in to a new and sad situation.
Are any other forum members having this experience?

Hello Jess, welcome to the forum
I’m not in your position now. However my husband suffered with Vascular dementia and other health issues. He was in a nursing home. It had a novovirus outbreak at one point and I couldn’t visit for 3 weeks. I was frantic. Eventually, when able to visit again, he had no idea it had been so long! I understand it’s not as bad as your situation, as I did get to know staff and other visitors.
All you can do, sadly, is to keep in touch via the telephone, or email, and hard as it is, accept the information they give to you. I’m sure they will be in contact with you, if have concerns.
Have you family to chat to?
I’m so sorry you are going through this, in such a difficult time. You obviously have to stay safe, for yourself and your husband.

Hello Jess

Welcome to the forum

I just wanted to let you know we’re running series of online weekly meet ups for carers to get together and chat informally. People say they’ve found it really helpful and supportive and it’s nice to be able to take a little bit of time for yourself. There’s no pressure to share any more than you’re comfortable with. Join up details are here:

Do join if you’d like to

Best wishes

Hi Jess, can I just ask who is paying for his care?