It’s horrible having to make this sort of decision.
Try to focus on what she NEEDS because neither of you WANT to be in this situation.
Have you had a look at the care quality commission website, which will tell you about the places available. Sadly, there will be very few.
Do you have Power of Attorney?
Is mum claiming Disability Living Allowance or PIP?
Is she currently claiming Council Tax Exemption for “Severe Mental Impairment”. That a horrible, official term I’m afraid.
Does mum own or rent her home? Do you live with her?
Does she have over £23,000 in savings (Yes/No)
I know this looks like a random set of questions, but your answers will help us to help you find the best situation.