hi guys,im new here my partner has vascular dementia who i care for full time.

Hi Marc, welcome to the forum.

Many carers on the forum are in a similar position, help IS available, if you know where to look.
Has your partner had a recent Needs Assessment, and you a Carers Assessment, from Social Services?
Has anyone told you that your partner is now EXEMPT from Council Tax, backdateable to the date of diagnosis?
How old is your partner? This will affect benefits which may be available.