New Member In hell

Hi all

My name is Andrew I am new to all this. I have been my mum main carer since 2017 after she suffered a major stroke that has affected her left side. Event though Ihave got carers coming in 3 to 4 times a day. Everything has been going down hill since October 2023 where a carer has accused me of putting my hands on her hip and whispering in her ear offering her into the shower which is a lie. And this year another carer has accused me of putting my hand on hips and doing thrust lower half back and forward which never happend this carer not long came back to work after giving birth. And now I am really stuggling as the poilce has applied to court for a SRO and is in place for three years but now they have had to do a double up because of the SRO and the first carer who accused me still came in and after one morning call was done she left with the other carer, she rang the her office and told them I was following her around the bungalow which I was not as the other carer rang the office to find out if the carer in question rang the office and asked them did she ring you up saying that I was fellowing her and that carer backed me up and said he did one thing for me then did not come out until we left. So after speacking with my mum soical worker she advice me to email the company, carer coordinator and herslef I found out their was a full investaction happened but I don’t know what the outcome was. So the first carer and the second who backed me up came in on a morning call and I opened up the bedroom door but did not enter the bedroom as it was part of my SRO but they both said that I entered the bedroom when I only had my arm in and I could not see anything. So now I am waiting for my 2nd court date as the first one they ran out of court time. So my next court date is 22/11/24.

I respect all the carer that comes in and would not even do anything like they have said I have done. Plus the first carer in question is not the type I would go for, But since October 23 with the false allegation their has been other issues I was threaten out of my council property which resulting in me suffering from Anxiety and still am suffering.

Hi @AndyL84, have you got any support for yourself? I know it is a hard time for you as many of us have been in the same boat where we wrongly been made out to have said or done something we have not. I know you are limited in what you can say due to court case. I would suggest speaking to the carers helpline for further information and advice but also there are groups that help and support men only which might offer be better for you to open up. Best of luck.

Hello Andy. Thanks for posting in Carers Connect. It sounds like you’re having a really difficult time at the moment. While we are unable to provide direct support for your specific situation, we wanted to reach out with some information which we hope will help.

We would suggest contacting your local branch of Citizens Advice. They will be able to offer guidance on your rights and entitlements to legal advice. You can find your local branch using this tool: https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/about-us/contact-us/nearby/.

Citizens Advice also have some helpful information on their website such as this page: https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/law-and-courts/legal-system/finding-free-or-affordable-legal-help/

With good wishes

Michael

No I have not got support what so ever.

I don’t need Citizen Advice with court as I have a solicitor

Andrew,

In the mean time, can they send a male carer?

I have no idea what the carers think they are doing! To protect yourself from any further allegations I think you should install CCTV inside the home. I would start by talking to the Care Quality Commission about the legalities of this. So much depends on the layout of your home.
If there was a Social Services investigation I’m fairly certain you should have been supported by an advocate.