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Hi there,
I have cared for my wife for the past 6 or 7 years, she has escaemic heart failure (ICD device fitted), COPD, type 1 diabetes and rheumatoid arthritis.
I have had my own recent health issues and now work part time, which gives me more time with my wife.
Looking forward to talking to others in a similar situation, it feels sometimes like unpaid cares are the forgotten ones.
I am also a member of Carers Bucks.

Welcome to the forum Kevin.

I hope you find it supportive and informative.


Welcome aboard, Kevin

I recently took early retirement to care for my wife as I’d been forced to work from home due to covid. Physically, it was less of a strain than caring and working. Financially, not so much!

Have a good look round, anyway. And do have a look at the Members section and “Roll Call.”

Hi my husband has anxiety and depression, this came on quite suddenly in February, after he probably had depression quite a while without realising.
I read how carers should care for themself, do their own activities etc, however my husband finds it hard to cope with being in the house alone so I’ve hardly been able to go out for over three months and I feel I might reach a point I no longer feel calm and caring.
It is so helpful to be able to type this out :slight_smile:
Thanks if anyone reads this

Dear Kevin_220512
Hi. I am Kristie i am a volunteer online community host for Carers UK. I am sure you will get the help you need from fellow carers, the organisation and the advisers on the helpline i will give to you below. I am sure they will help you through this difficult time.
So welcome to the forum! You are not alone in your caring role and i am sure that many on here will understand exactly how you feel and will offer you their support. Caring can be very lonely and the pandemic has made caring responsibilities challenging as many carers have been socially restricted and unable to attend social groups etc.
Carers UK are running two online weekly meet ups for carers and you can find the information on how to register at:- Care For A Cuppa:-Online meetups | Carers UK. The second only weekly meet ups for carers is:- Share And Learn:-Share and Learn | Carers UK.
Our telephone number is 0808 808 7777 and the line is open Monday to Friday between the hours of 9am-6pm. Our email address is (
They provide information and guidance to unpaid carers. This covers:-
-Benefits And Financial Support
-Your Rights As A Carer In The Workplace
-Carers Assessments And How To Get Support In Your Caring Role
-Services Available To Carers And The People You Care For
-How To Complain Effectively And Challenge Decisions
Best Wishes