Welcome to the forum!! Lovely to have you aboard.
Gosh you’ve been through the mill of things!
I’m really pleased you’re reaching out - if you need a laugh with people who think like you try https://forum.carersuk.org/t/roll-call-february-2024/124457/186
It’s roll call where we have a general chat and talk like Carers talk including
So I know you’ll enjoy feeling amongst people who ‘Get it’ again!
Our world, and the world in general needs more people like you! People who stick up for those suffering and to actually care! TOOOOOO often people treat caring like a transaction and ticking boxes and get in and get out… SO NEVER apologise for advocating for those who can’t stick up for themselves…
Reading between the lines you sound a little burn out tired with going through all the challenges of these places and hurtful dynamics with other people…May I ask how you relax? What’s the situation on the personal front, do you have friends to talk to, family support?
Managers (unless they’re good ones) can be 9 to 5 administrative rather than team builders. Many people take the title and money, but don’t really build teams and manage…I can say that as someone who’s been around the block a few times in commercial roles and business… So I can well believe that Managers haven’t managed a situation appropriately or supported you…
A few suggestions:
From what you describe, especially with your grandad maybe an in-home, nursing home or hospice healthcare assistant role could be a better fit, for you to get in, get training and have a more team-based environment, where you could build relationships within a stable place?
I thought of this immediately, because dementia and elderly care is crying out for caring individuals like yourself!
the hospice situation is difficult, and also an emotional strain, but you could add lots of support and be valued more…Find ones near you and ask is my advice
perhaps ask these organisations to see how you can apply to work with them?
Dementia UK: Click here
Dementia UK Specialist Nurse support: What is an Admiral Nurse, and how can they help?
Alzheimer’s Society (UK ) https://www.alzheimers.org.uk/about-dementia/types-dementia
The agencies can be tough - high volume of work and team changes, which sounds like what you were doing. I thought of hospices because they may be more ‘stable’ environments, and teams. The hospice at home care we had for Dad had healthcare assistants they trained to spend a few hours with families to help them.
I hope these give you some ideas - @Charlesh47 has experience of Carer centres and other organisations so he’s probably got even more ideas.
Take care @Kerr55 and please don’t stop caring the world DOES need more people like you