Afternoon everyone…
I posted On this forum a year or to ago (check this page https://www.carersuk.org/forum/support-and-advice/all-about-caring/my-brother-now-in-a-care-nursing-home-some-questions-30185?start=60)
Well, after my disabled brother - who’s been in a care home now since July 2017 - plus two very recent life threatening illnesses (pneumonia/sepsis./respiratory distress) - of which one was last week -and still in hospital At writing, my Brother in law now wants me to be a trustee for him, as - in his own words, “””he’s had enough””(he text my brother today to text me, as my bro in law, for some reason doesn’t text me at all) he and my sister - his wife are now semi-retired/retired respectably
(Slightly off topic) I’ve spent most of the year - it seems just filling forms in left right and centre. My disabled brothers ESA (still waiting for that) his PIP (personal independence payment) my own ESA and PIP still awaiting. And there’s a “sort of trust” I’m aware of that involves the DWP and the care home managing £2370 co-funding over payment that was refunded to my disabled brother, But was unable to do anything with it as the cheque was in his name, so the money mentioned above is between the DWP and nursing home - withdrawing money on my request.
Back on topic. So, I was “greeted this morning with a text saying that my bro -in-Law has had enough of being a trustee, and wants ME to take over. Do I have to? As my bro in law is a man of law (former police/law graduate or something like that!!!) and I’ve got the feeling of having this new task of being a trustee being “forced” on me. I Don’t really need anything like this to be honest, but it seems that all my family (who still Don’t pay top up fees - see link above). Want to distance themselves from “financial responsibility “. - and now push it on to me. (Since my last post, my brother in laws wife - my sister has been diagnosed with dementia) maybe that means something…
I’m only to happy to take a task on, but it may one too many, as I’ve myself been through the PIP assessment tests, and suffer from chronic anxiety (drs diagnosis) I’m not aware of the responsibilities of being a trustee- but I get the feeling that if I say NO, I will suffer backlash.
Sorry for the mixed up post, as I’m currently looking at this, and https://www.moneyadviceservice.org.uk/en/articles/free-financial-advice-your-options setting up a trustee etc. Quote”
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How much does it cost to set up a trust?
Instructing a solicitor to set up a trust for you can be expensive - typically around £1,000 or more. But using a solicitor helps you avoid costly mistakes further down the line - for example if the wording of your trust is ambiguous or misleading.
Some charities have schemes where they contribute towards the parents’ costs of setting up a trust for a disabled child.
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It all looks to complicated to me. And I’m wondering if my brother in law what’s me to set up a trust because of my disabled brother has been I’ll??? . Im on my own here by the way
Tony.