Hope you are all well. I’ve not posted on here for a few months but just needed somewhere to vent.
Things are just getting on top of me again. I don’t know if I am coming or going anymore. I hope you don’t mind me venting.
I had one counselling session at work before the pandemic started. It was good, I had a good cry. It was good to let it all out. I don’t think she quite understood where I was coming from because she got the impression I wanted a wife and was too scared to find one. I talked about the caring but it didn’t seem to register with her. Nonetheless, it was good to have a chat with a stranger and let it all out. I went through half a box of tissues! I had another session booked but the pandemic happened.
Mum’s lost loads of weight and is down to her last few teeth. She still tries to do everything on her own but can’t and then gets really upset which upsets me in turn. She can’t even open doors with her arthritis in her wrist. It’s so sad. She can’t eat much due to her lack of teeth so I mush up all the food or cook things which will be soft like super boiled vegetables. I’m doing everything I can for her but I get so tired sometimes.
My brother has also lost weight and now shakes all the time. The other day I asked him to pass something to me and he was shaking so bad. He is only 40 and I am really worried about it all. He won’t go out of the house anymore. The other day I asked if he wanted to come to the shops with me, he went to his room and didn’t come back down. I wish he would join a support group for his urine retention problem or even go to the GP and tell them what is bothering him. I can’t do all the emotional stuff for him. The other day I lost my patience with him and then I felt really bad. I feel like an awful person sometimes.
My sister is in her own little world and doesn’t seem to want to help out at all. I know she has learning difficulties but it really annoys me that she always has an opinion on things and wants to voice it yet will do absolutely nothing to help me out, no cleaning, no cooking, no tidying up, no helping Mum!
The other siblings still don’t give a shit which is so annoying. I’m the youngest and I feel I should be the one not giving a shit but then it would fall onto Mum which is just not on. I have asked them for help but they are not interested. I am not married therefore all responsibility should fall on me! I wish my older nephew and niece who are in their 20’s would pop round once in a while even if it was just to sit with Mum, but no, they don’t.
The ***** next door are still doing our heads in. Constantly slamming doors which is done on purpose! I know the walls on the property are thin but they take the piss. It’s 1pm now and I have already counted 25 full on door slams! Saturday night, they were partying hard until about 2am which meant no sleep for any of us. The Police aren’t interested and neither are the Council. I know AJAY put up a link but they just bat it off, “it’s the lockdown, people are going to be noisy” blah blah blah!
Work have told us to bring all our things home as the office is now closed for good. I used to like going to work 2.5 days a week. It gave me a breath of fresh air and it felt food to not be at home next to the ***** family and not having to run around the people I care for either. Now I will be stuck at home 24 / 7 which is either going to break me or break me (yes I said break me twice!).
I’m in my late 30’s now but looked at myself in the mirror the other day and resemble a 50 year old. I never thought caring would be so intense and would take it out of me like this.
Sorry, I just needed to get all of that out. I am so tired, I am falling asleep but I know the ***** will bang a door and wake me up.
Take care everyone and stay safe.