Google Charging for Care” and look at the .gov information.
As no one has POA at the moment they probably couldn’t sell the house even if they wanted to!
Also have a look at “Property Disregards”. As you are a relative living in mum’s house there may be extra reasons why you don’t need to worry about the house.
Try to find a way of looking after your own well being. For me, it’s a massage, hairdresser visit, or facial.
We are here for you.
Since mum is so profoundly disabled she will either stay in hospital or be moved to a nursing home funded by CHC. I know she doesn’t want that but hospital beds are desperately needed.
Its not now, Its months down the line they said if she didn’t die and didn’t respond to rehab either? Its absolutely unbelievable this is. How can the NHS force a property sale over someone who didn’t die who was left in this bad way? Thank you Bowling Bun and others for being so kind and thoughtful. I try to think of others in these bad situations as well. I didn’t know trauma until last week and had all this to deal with by myself. Apparently as well, there are beds for people to die in within the NHS and lots of people do. There are things we don’t know about.
@Elizabeth_1602123 Sorry you are going through this. The bullying you have been subjected to has been horrendous when you are so vulnerable. Totally agree with the others about not having her home. The suggestion is frankly inhumane. I personally would phone the CUK Legal Helpline or email them. It is also worth an initial appointment with a solicitor just to get an idea of where you stand. Is the house in joint names or just your mother’s name? I think for your own peace of mind you need answers.
I would have thought that if the hospital wanted to pursue the costs as in ‘discharging to a nursing home’ then this would have to be done through the Court of Protection?
Hi, Thanks for your reply, I’m going to have another day away from this and visit the vicar today and G.P on Wednesday if I can get in. I’m totally at the end of my tether with this. I honestly think she’s too bad to be discharged anywhere. She’s is a right state. I’ve refused care home because it wasn’t her wishes.
The house is in her name only. Thanks.
Yes I can understand how difficult it is and a good idea to see the GP and get on file how stressful this is. Let us know how things go as it is a very supportive Forum.
Thank you everyone. The main things I want to pass on about this is to not let a hospital try to force you to have someone home if you cant cope. Just say no and stick to it. Also get POA as well over the person who you care for. Next door were telling me their daughter has all on with the hospital over a relative who was in hospital and they couldn’t find a suitable placement for so they kept trying to put her places that the family objected to. But they couldn’t because the family had POA. They had 10 months of this.
She passed this afternoon. Many thanks for the kindness and support from all the people on this thread. Also I’m sorry for the trauma and very difficult situations you have had to deal with.
Elizabeth, I’m sure you have so many mixed emotions today. Try to get some rest, and spend tomorrow quietly, before the formalities of death take over. Remember this is a forum for former, as well as current carers. We are still here if you need us.
Elizabeth I am sorry too and I am sure you will have mixed emotions. Hope you can get some rest and take of yourself. It upsets me that some in the NHS has made an already traumatic time even harder for you. I echo BB we are here if you need us in the next few weeks or months.
Thank You Everyone for your kind words etc. I’m feeling a lot better now and am cracking on with things that need doing re the funeral and registering the death etc. I am considering writing to the hospital manager for that ward when everything gets sorted out. But I will see.
Just focus on the formalities for now, but keep a. Notebook or similar for things as you remember them. Once the funeral is over, you can decide on who to contact. One letter could change things for other elderly people who don’t have a relative to help fight their corner.
