Hi, new here. Just wondering if anyone is in a similar position.
I’m a carer for my 8 year old daughter. She has a mobility issue which was present at birth but not officially diagnosed until 2 years 4 months. She can walk, but really struggles and will most likely end up on HRM DLA when she turns 10 as she sometimes uses a wheelchair. Because of this she has incontence issues and isn’t always reliable with her bathroom habbits. Takes painkillers which also messes up her toiletting. She is also diagnosed General Learning Difficulties, and Dyspraxia also thought to have Audiotory Processing Disorder. All thought to be caused by an underlying condition that we’re going through private testing for.
I love her but I often feel like a fraud for claiming DLA for her, as compared to other people I know who claim it for their children. She has the most horrendous meltdowns when tired or frustrated, but I still feel like I’m a fraud and someone will take the DLA away. I use the money to benefit her, like for half term next week we’re off to the circus because it helps to train her brain when theres so much going on and she loves all the colours and music (even though she’ll be exhausted by it to).
My family aren’t the most supportive so in my mind that backs up the evidence that daughter doesn’t need DLA and therefore I shouldn’t claim carers allowance. I do work part time although currently off sick due to an issue with my own medications. I have PTSD so again this backs up the evidence in my mind that I’m a fraud and should just stop claiming it and go back to work full time. And actually while not working nothing much has changed in terms of the amount i do bar I just don’t go to work at the moment.
Anyone else understand? I feel like whenever I speak to none carer parents they don’t get it and just say they have to work full time so why shouldn’t I? So again backs up my fraudulant thoughts.
DLA was hard fought for last year, she should of been on it from age 2/3 when the Health Visitor originally helped us fill out the forms but we only had enough evidence this year. They didn’t even speak to her physio or podiatrist just based it off those reports, so in my mind its still a fraudulant claim.