Hi, so I know I posted a few positive things on here earlier. However, things have got slightly difficult again. Not long after my last post, I was knackered and just fell asleep. Around half an hour ago, I was awoken by the constant buzzing of my phone to find my cousin ringing me frantically. I don’t normally put my phone on silent because once Im out, I’m out. I don’t expect anyone to ring so late anyway.
But this woke me. I answered it half asleep to my cousin shouting at me “to sort my effing mum out or else.” I was confused, I was half asleep and struggling to get my head together. I asked her what was going on. Apparently my mum texted her a simple message. Yes it was one that could have been taken multiple ways, but not that bad.
I mentioned my mum getting into an abusive relationship before. Well the guy would contact this cousin and my youngest sibling with reports of things that my mum had supposedly done. It was a Classic abuse case really, he would violently attack mum and then mark his skin to claim she had done it to him instead. Police got involved, it became easier to blame the woman with mental health issues than the man with a history of violence. He would contact family to turn them against her. Funny how he never contacted me once. I’ve never ever spoken to him.
So today my mum asked her if he had said anything else to her which I agree is stupid given her character, but also just not worth an argument over. I have told mum about doing this because she really rubs people up the wrong way. She has asked similar things to me in the past and I have got angry with her because she doesn’t stop pushing. She just can’t get over things and move on. She still goes on about incidents that happened years ago like they only happened yesterday. Only I am a level headed individual that doesn’t resort to violence and threats when something annoys me.
Anyway Apparently they argued, but like many people, she too has had enough of mum. I have told her many times if you are that concerned ring social services, ring safeguarding, but no, she just takes it too far. I agree mum should not have messaged her because of who she is and she just seems to want an argument. But does mum ever listen no. I have told her countless times to block her and not to contact them. But she just decided to resort to threat.
This cousin was really getting at me. She has done it before. That day I broke down at work, lost my relationship and had to go to the mental health facility the night before she had said some really nasty things to me. She told me I wasn’t good enough and I was an unfit daughter. She told me I was a disgrace. She said it to both siblings too. She calls me an unfit daughter, because apparently I let my mum get away with all her behaviour.
She says I’m a disgrace because I won’t take her phone of her. That I’m not stopping her from having mental health problems and not stopping her from talking to people. It’s insane. She said I’m not good enough for not stopping her from doing all these things and that makes me a terrible person. She keeps telling me that if I don’t sort her out, she will “smash her face in” she also keeps making threats about getting us all. Both siblings included.
It was 11:50 when she called. She was literally screaming at me down the phone saying that if I don’t go and stop her right now she will go around and hurt her. I told her to just ignore it and I told her anymore I will contact the police. She wouldn’t stop. I did raise my voice back and I said “you’ve just woken me up, how the hell am I in any fit state to drive. “ She continued to say that If I didn’t go she would hurt her and that I would be responsible.
I came off the phone and Immediately started to throw up. I was confused and disoriented. I have called the police.
Mum also told me that she keeps saying I am stealing money from mum. I don’t understand, so she hates mum because of her behaviour but then is really concerned that ‘I am stealing money from mum.’ Mum has access to all her own money apart from a small pot which is used to pay the bills. I do wonder if she actually called the police, last time she said she did but soon came around with all the apologies. I then got the classic “I just call a spade a spade line.”
She is resorting to bullying both siblings too. The youngest aged 20 lives with her partner in another city. I do t see her often. She’s still quite young, and this cousin who is in their 50s is supposedly calling the police on her for being a ‘sex worker.’ She only posted a picture of herself on a night out. According to my cousin she was asking for it because her arms were showing.
She has also threatened to expose my other sibling who is partially sighted. Apparently she is lying about her condition to get out of taking responsibility for mum. This sibling also once posted a silly meme on Facebook, the cousin saw it. She instantly called her and had ago at her, telling her she can’t be partially sighted for posting it and she should be doing more caring rather than posting memes.