mum is supposed to be going to the hospital this afternoon but funnily enough this morning she’s feeling poorly. Is it awful I don’t believe her as she said yesterday she wanted to cancel it. She should be going as she’s got a mass in her uterus and the hospital have done it on 2 week referral. I’m nervous enough about it but I just feel as if I want to break down but I can’t as I’ve got an appointment this morning.
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@Kazz Can only send cyber hugs. She is an adult and all you can do is try to persuade her to go. What exactly is she afraid of? Is she frightened of what they might find? All you can do is try and reassure her that it may be treatable -not easy I know. I agree totally that she should go but you cannot force her. I am so very sorry that you are going through this.
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@kazz….hopefully you can persuade her to go, hope you’re okay
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There is a different attitude in some older people, when the word cancer inevitably meant a death sentence. Is it the thought of possible surgery that scares her? My mum had an 8 hour op in her 80’s, so she had the top anaesthetist and sailed through!
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Thank you all for your support and replies. Just to let you know she was lying and when we spoke about it calmly she did decided to go. What i didn’t say earlier that she’s had cancer twice before and beat it so that’s why I wanted her to go to the appointment. They couldn’t do the biopsy properly, the only way is put her under but the Consultant who can I say was absolutely fantastic and caring said with her being so frail and having a Respect form she wouldn’t suggest having it because at the end of day it’s about quality of life for my mum, as at the end of the day my mum said she wouldn’t want any treatment.
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Good that mum went and the surgeon was kind. Whatever happens now, your conscience will be clea.
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@Kazz…I’m glad mum went and that you were able to speak to her calmly about it.
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@Kazz So glad that the Consultant was understanding - not easy for them either at times. But the ‘quality of life’ argument is a very poignant one. I use it all the time for my beloved feline family.
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