Hi, so my aunt is causing some bother again. This morning I went to my mums house to pick up some documents, so I can get them photocopied for her pip review.
Whilst there my aunt was kicking off saying how she doesn’t want me there. Yet It’s technically still my home. My mum invited me in, and the aunt was crying and going crazy. I said nothing to her. I don’t even look at the woman after what she has done. I was just speaking to my mum about collecting her carers diary and about a trip to the farm yesterday and showed her some pictures of me feeding a goat- everything was fine. We were talking pleasantly and laughing. It was only a short visit to collect what I forgot yesterday. Yet she hated it. My aunt doesn’t like me speaking to my mum at all. She doesn’t like anyone speaking to my mum at all. She killed our cat because she didn’t like my mum giving it attention. She was under suspicion by rspca.
My mum has also told me she keeps kicking off that she has carers and doesn’t want my mum to have them. She hates them visiting at my mums house daily. Again she doesn’t like anyone speaking to mum at all. Every appointment my mum has she seems to be getting jealous and is kicking off, even having episodes to stop her going. She even told her social worker that she was going to punch her.
My aunt lives in a hotel at the moment, since she destroyed her own home completely. They are struggling to find her somewhere else because she doesn’t have a good rep with landlords and keeps destroying houses. She was purposefully causing damage to her property and not cleaning up. You hear of hoarders, but her home was filled with metres high of broken glass, mouldy food packets, and cat poo, and the remains of deceased animals. According to her “it’s not her job to clean up.” Yet she didn’t want anyone coming into her home. It’s like she loved using it as an excuse to say “look what they have done to me.”
Apparently they are trying to remove her from the hotel because is causing too much of a mess and is just throwing her rubbish everywhere and it’s taking longer for the cleaners to do their jobs. She has been told to clean up more, but she just says other people cause the mess. She stinks too and refuses to bathe.
When mum tried to cut contact she somehow ended up with a broken ankle. We think that she did it on purpose by throwing her self down the stairs. It’s the sort of thing she would do.
The housing officer has asked her to move in with my mum at my old house. My mum has refused because of what she did to her house and she is purposely wetting herself and throwing her soiled clothes on the floor of my mums home to get attention. She is throwing coffee on the floor purposely pretending to shake and have panic attacks. She does this in front of people to create a shift in attention or if she doesn’t like people at the house. She is kicking off at my mums carers and is kicking off if my mum sees me and my siblings. My mum has regular treatment for her osteoarthritis and needs injections quarterly. She always tries to stop my mum going and keeps telling my mum she “doesn’t need the treatment” and they are trying to control her. Mum also has other therapies she doesn’t like her going too.
My aunt has a social worker and apparently she screamed at her and threatened to punch her. She’s also threatening other people. The thing is this has all happened before. She severely abused her other sister who is severely disabled, with reports about possible sexual abuse. I warned social services but they said the cases weren’t related. Now suddenly it’s happened again. The other aunt is in care and no one is allowed to know where she is for her protection from my aunt.
The thing is my aunt is smarter than she acts and it’s all an act. She’s telling people that my mum is stealing from her and is hitting her and the social worker is having ago at mum for it believing it. She’s saying mum is stealing from her bank account and is depriving her of food.
My eldest aunt told me and my sibling too that my aunt bullied her dad so much when he was frail. One night she bullied him so much that he had a heart attack and he died. This was in the 80s. I don’t know how true it is; but it certainly fits the profile. My eldest aunt also hates her guts as does everybody but it makes sense if the suspicion is there. I know my grandad died of an heart attack the night Susan had an episode.
Even when my dad was alive she was always telling people he hurt her and hit her. It’s funny because he was never near her, he refused to have her in the house because she was abusive and unsafe around us kids. She was always lying to my mum too so dad just said no. She was always being horrible, and he often asked her to leave. She once told us to “drop dead” when I was 12 and my siblings were 8 and 6.
Her late partner hit us with belts when we were kids and he always had a ‘hard on’ whilst he did it. My dad was at work at the time. You could see it because it was a known fact that he refused to wear underpants. He was always saying that he liked young girls. He was a known paedophile too not that stopped my aunt. She would say she “liked bad boys.”
There are so many cases against my aunt but no one does anything because of stupid red tape. I will be writing to my aunts social worker and higher up to get them to leave mum alone. I get they are only acting on safeguarding, but I know mum would not steal from my aunt. My aunt is only saying it because my mum gets PIP, and she wants the money. My aunt was always kicking off at me when I lived at home because she didn’t like me working for money. Apparently “working people” take all the money away from people like her and she wanted me to give her mine to compensate. She also thinks she doesn’t have to pay rent and should get it for free.
As part of the strongly worded letter I will be referring to the fact that my mum has had an OT assessment which determines mum needs a property suited to her needs. The report says that she needs to be in an extra care facility. If my aunt move in aren’t they just creating a safeguarding risk. My aunt wants my mum to be ‘a slave for her’ and ‘make up for the lost time when my mum met my dad and had kids.’ She is mental.
I ask if the council can force someone to provide housing for someone.