24 caring for mentally I’ll mum who doesn’t want help

All about caring Young adult carers
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I don’t know where to start with this.
I am beyond exhausted, lonely and isolated.

I’m an only child taking on all this weight of caring for someone who is very very unwell but is happy and content with how they are. I have accessed mental health services for her many times, begged professionals, broken down in front of many and I get no where. She is deemed as having capacity.
My mum no longer has any maternal bone in her, she treats me like I’m her worst enemy, says awful things and enjoys making my life as difficult as she can.

I don’t know what breaking point is because I think I went pass that years ago.
I would love to just have some friends who at least understand what I’m going through. This is the hardest thing to go through and I really wouldn’t wish it on anyone.

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HUGS Franka, I’m dismayed at the lack of support you are getting.

It would help to have a bit more information so we can work out what might help, so apologies for the questions, but I wanted to respond asap.

Is there a Young Carers Group in your area?
Have you ever had a Carers Assessment?
Are you getting Carers Allowance?

What do you want most for yourself?
For mum?

When, if ever, have you been away on holiday with others your age?
Does mum own, or rent, her house?
Is your dad still alive? Any other relatives?

Sadly you are not the first young person enslaved by their parent, we will try to find you support.