I am not quite sure where to post this, however, my brother is the primary carer for our 93 year old mother. They live together on a quite isolated farm. My mother has carers to support her to get washed and dressed every morning. I visit during the afternoon/early evening to prepare a meal and put my mother to bed.
My brother has always been a little ‘quirky’ (please excuse the term, if it is insensitive). For example, he says exactly what comes into his head and he will verbalise his thoughts, laughing and whispering to himself. However, once or twice over the past month or so, he has shouted at me, accusing me of trying to push him into the fire or trying to hurt him in some way. There has never been any reason for him to think I would attempt to hurt him.
Yesterday, however, he stared at me and said he was going to take out a restraining order on my because I had tried to attack him with a chainsaw, tried to run him over with a tractor, I was constantly trying to push him into the fire and I was plotting with my sons to kill him, so we would take over the farm. He said he had seen me doing these things and spoken to me.
Obviously, there is no truth in any of this, and I spoke to him stating how terrible these feelings must be and that he must be really stressed and so on. He calmed down after a while and even agreed to make an appointment to see his GP this morning.
I have sent him an e-mail this morning, encouraging him to see his doctor. However, I have arranged for my husband to cook a meal for my mother, because I am scared that my presence might trigger another ‘episode’.
So far, my brother has not responded to my e-mail. What should I do if he does not see the GP and if this behaviour continues. He is 62.