I’m new here and I’m hoping that I’m not posting this in the wrong place.
I’m a single parent who is carer to my 18 year old who suffers from depression, sever anxiety and also has suspected ASD and my 10 year old, who also has suspected ASD along with Dyslexia and Dyspraxia. They are both waiting to be assessed but we’re looking at long 2 year wait for both.
I have recently come to the end of a fixed term contract 16hr per week role and I’m now waiting to start a new zero hour contract Support Worker role, as this will offer me some flexibility around my children.
My friend has Fibromyalgia, Dyslexia and mental health issues. She messaged me today out of the blue asking me to be her carer. She says she’s been told she can get funding for 8hrs per week. This is to help her with housework, wash herself, get her out of the house a little bit and help her with paperwork. (She has brain fog caused by the Fibro and her dyslexia adds to the difficulty)
My first instinct is to say yes and help my friend, but I’m unsure of any financial implications (and mental ones) this may have for myself and my family.
Would I still be able to be an unpaid carer for my children and entitled to help from the government at the same time as being a paid carer for my friend?
I have posted a PIP form for my eldest and don’t know other help is available for them. I have a ton of questions floating around my head and I’m unsure about any of this. I didn’t even realise I was already a carer until recently, paid or otherwise!
Any advice about any of this muddle would be greatly appreciated
Caring for your friend may well change your friendship and it’s worth thinking about this. Also, what would happen in school holidays etc - would she find someone else for those times or would she be ok about you taking your son with you and how would you and he feel about this/
I don’t know how it would work as it was just a bolt out of the blue to be asked today so I’ve never thought of it before.
I understand the position my friend is in, wanting someone they know and trust to care for them and financially it would be helpful to me.
On the flip side I have 2 other people that I care for and I wouldn’t want to affect my ability to care for them by caring for another person. Plus I’m unsure to how an employer/employee relationship with my friend would affect our close friendship.
Although it can work well in some cases, being paid as a carer changes the relationship from helping a friend or loved one into being an employee, often of a boss who has no understanding of your rights as an employee, or of their responsibilities (and yours). Some relationships do not pass this test.