Stubborn 98 year old father in law.
My father in law is 98, had a stroke about 3 years ago and then started having carers 4 times a day.
His son, (my husband) and I live 200 hundred miles away and he has no other close relatives.
He lives in a bungalow and the carers get him up in the morning, help with dressing, tablets and breakfast. Then visit and do his lunch, assist to bathroom, and the same at teatime and bedtime and help him undress and help him into bed.
My husband visits him once a fornight for 2 or more night and I go up with him on occasions to stay. In between my husband brings him down to our house for holiday times, if he wants to come.
His mobility had been quite good until the last 2 months. He walks with a zimmer frame but recently his knees have given way and he is prone to falls. He has a careline. He doesn’t have any dementia.
He has had 2 hospital admissions in the last 6 weeks (he stayed in for 2 weeks first time then for one week, the second time and each time no serious injuries, just a bit of bruising and shaken up) and has fallen about 6 times since discharge and either the neighbour comes in to see to him via contact from careline or the carers come in and have found him on the floor. They either try and get him up with another pair of hands or phone the paramedics and after assessment have not needed to take him into hospital recently.
The carers have asked father in law where he wants to sit, as he sometimes likes to do his art on the dining room table, then they will take him there and take him back to recliner chair at the end of the hour. They and the hospital have asked if not to walk by himself with no carers but he refuses to take any notice, he chooses when he wants to walk and has had frequent falls as a result.
Although he agrees not to walk without someone with him, it doesn’t stop him getting up (with a struggle and very unsteady at first) and walking where he wants to. Any suggestions to reduce his falls? He also has a motorised scooter which he can operate but doesn’t always choose to use it, even though he agrees to.
Any advice greatfully received.