Hi, I’m just checking in after a while..Well despite my best efforts I didn’t manage to leave my BiPolar (is it really!?) husband. I tried, I really did, got the house in my name, a separation agreement drawn up, house on the market and sold! Then it started, the manipulation, gaslighting, emotional blackmail etc etc. I went under and gave up!! I’m now kind of resigned to the idea that this is it…stuck living with him. I try to detach from it all and have friends that kind of get it. I’m making the most of it but jeez it’s hard!!
Thank you all who supported me in this forum last year, I hope you are all hanging in there xx
I don’t want to say “Welcome Back” for obvious reasons, your last few months sound traumatic.
Can you manage to escape for a well earned holiday on your own?
I take my sewing machine with me if I rent a cottage in the UK, something to connect with who I really am.
i’ve recently had emails from “Last Minute Cottages” and they have lots of bargains, some half price. Usually at this time of year they only want to let cottages for 7 days, but this year there are lots of 4 day breaks, Monday to Friday. I’m happy with just a “studio” with the bed one end of the room.
Hi @Sue24 Thanks, I’m ok now, really thought I was going crazy for a while but managed to hang on in there. I’m in a much better space now, accepting what is and my limitations. Managing to detach from ‘him indoors’ much more and lead a more independent life whilst still ‘caring’. How about you?
Hi @bowlingbun, good to hear from you. Yes somewhat traumatic but settling down to the new norm. Yes I am managing to take a break, I’ve a holiday booked for next month and am going with a couple of friends… I’m so looking forward to it. Life at home is not brilliant but I am managing to detach more. Reading around Bipolar it would seem my husband is failing to respond to his medication in any positive way and is deteriorating gradually, the term I’m seeing that ‘fits’ is ‘end stage bipolar’. If I thought there was going to be an end to it any time soon that would be encouraging but I fear not!