Hi all. Just joines. Im not from UK, Im from Argentina
My mother had a stroke when she was at her 40s, now she is 63, she have cognitive issues. She is not completely gone, I mean, she “lives in reality”, way different as my grandmother when she also developed dementia. My mother still can process reality, but she have some pecualiar ways to think that are “not rational”.
She also have short memory issues (but perfect long term memory, still intact 100%), she cant do simple maths like 17+39, she even cant use the calculator right, recently a Dr asked her to draw a clock at 5:30pm and she couldnt do it. She cant get that 80 seconds is more than 1 minute, I guess she thinks that 1 minute should be 100 seconds.
She also have big anger issues, getting mad for everything, wich makes it difficult to handdle. She gets mad all the time about everything, I cant see the newschannel with her or other channels because she starts talking bad about people of the TV and its just annoying to listen her complainkng and yelling all the time.
I like to watch the TV in mute, just watch it, dont hear it, and that makes her mad, “if you gonna to turn on the TV put sound, or turn it off”, like if thay matter… She gets mad when I stay too much at the bathroom.
She is very controlling and paranoid thinking everuthing could brake. When we eat she doesnt like if I use the microwave too much, only can use it 2 times, if the food still cold she would get mad if I use it a 3rd time.
She have his ups and downs with his anger issues, its a looooong story to tell.
She hoards, her house is a mess, lately she gets mad if I try to clean, or she tells me “can you please stop cleaning ? You are so obsessive with cleaning”, and when I say a mess the house is really messy, she hoarded too much furniture, and also keeps old things are useless, or she doesnt know how to store properly.
She have a small dog, but she let all the backyard for the dog and part of the garage, I cant go to the garage because the strong smell of the dog’s waste, my mother just doesnt care. Also its not a calm dog, the dog is chill, but as soon you try to go back to the house the dogs runs at you and barks you trying to enter the house, so you have to close the door quick, and if the dog enters then doednt wants to go out, also barks you if you try to pet him, my mother just doesnt see she should find the dog another house, its not for her, you cant even take it for a wall because barks you if you try to put a chain.
Im her only support, Im 29 old. My parents divorced long time ago, my sister lives in another country and have a bad relationship with my mother, my sister isnt a very gentle person, and likes to fight my mother, she try to help her “on a hatd way”, and doesnt understands the treatment my mother needs.
My mother take pills and have Drs and everything.
I just joined here to see if I kind find other carers of parents in a similar situation.
Anyone related with the case of my mother ? Thanks.