Hello,
I have posted a few times about my eldest son and his placement. I would just like a little guidance on how I should approach a response to a request from my son’s supported living provider.
About two weeks ago, I attended a meeting at my son’s residence. I was told this was an informal meeting between my son, his social worker and the social worker’s manager, just to make sure my son could express his views about what he wanted in his next placement.
However, as we were talking, several members of staff and the manager of the care provision entered and the meeting became a little heated (I felt a bit like an innocent bystander). It became clear that the care providers had asked the council for £300 a week additional funding to support my son. The support was for the 1:1 work he receives. The social worker and his manager seemed to be saying there was no evidence of this support and, after the meeting they were talking to my son about independent living.
After the meeting, my son told me that he did not feel able to manage independent living and he felt he had been placed under pressure to say things that he did not agree with. I believe he repeated this to key worker at his placement.
I sent an e-mail the next day, expressing my concern that my son felt he was not ready for the jump to independence and that his vulnerability (which had led to arrest and sectioning in the past) was still a major concern for me.
Today, one of the managers of the placement phoned me and said they had not had a response from the council with respect to the request for funding and if they did not receive confirmation soon, my son would be given notice. The manager asked me if I would contact a representative of the council, expressing my views.
I feel a little like I am in a cat and mouse game that is a little above my head and that the issue here is not (just) my son’s welfare but money. However, I am also scared that notice will be given and my son will face a situation similar to the one he faced a year and a half ago when he was abruptly discharged from a CAMHS unit and there was nowhere to go. I spent four months managing two very disturbed boys (my son and his younger brother) on my own at home. At that time, because my son was 17 and under a child protection plan, we got some help (not a lot.)
Please can you help me to decide what to say in my e-mail to the council. Should I argue that my son needs the extra support in his provision, for example? If so, how do I evidence this? I just do not really know where to start.