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My name is patricia, i have MS it has got really worse over the last three years , my husband says i am you carer ,more like jailor
i need advice how to deal with this love when i have the house to myself when he is golfing but weather has turned and we have snow he has OCD in denial but is constantly tiding up and i cant access them

Do you need physical help to do things?
Or is his OCD driving you nuts, by tidying up all the time?

i can do a lot for myself ,but cooking cleaning he does but guess who did it for the 33 prior and held down a full time job and raised two children

Dear Patricia_2201
Hi I am Kristie an online community host for Carers UK. I am sorry to hear of the situation you are in at Carers UK there is a telephone helpline an i am sure that fellow Carers who are in your position can help you on the forum.
So welcome to the forum! You are not alone in your caring role and i am sure that many on here will understand exactly how you feel and offer you their support. Caring can be very lonely and the pandemic has made caring responsibilities challenging as many carers have been socially restricted and unable to attend social groups etc.
Carers UK are running two online weekly meetups for carers and you can find the information on how to register at Care For A Cuppa:-Online meetups | Carers UK. Then there is another online weekly meetup for carers called Share And Learn:- Share and Learn | Carers UK.
Here is their telephone number for Carers UK:- 0808 808 7777. It is open from Monday to Friday between the hours from 9am-6pm and the email address is (
The advisers provide information and guidance to unpaid carers. This covers:-
-Benefits And Financial Support.
-Your Rights As A Carer In The Workplace
-Carers Assessments And How To Get Support In Your Caring Role
-Services Available to Carers And The People You Care For
-How To Complain Effectively And Challenge Decisions
Best Wishes

Is he putting things away that you need but are unable to reach after he has gone out?