My mum has been in hospital for over 3 weeks - she will get NHS funded care package whenever she comes home.I have been living with dad for last month as he is 90 with vascular dementia, I have to be with him 24/7 so have had to take time off work.I do not have POA ( mum was resistant to setting it up for dad) Am I allowed to organise some self funded care at home for him without POA? I anticipate he will be resistant to me getting some help in but I can’t go on as we are for much longer.Thanks for any advice.
Hello & welcome Louise
You have a lot on your plate sorting one parent tough two overload.
Firstly, you would be better to get an assessment done by social service. Once you start sorting care and paying. Social Services would be in no hurry if your at a later wanted them to intervene.
Even when Mum comes home do you really think she will be able to manage Dad.
Dear Louise _2203
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