Narcissistic Mother

Hi, I’m new here.
I’ve got a mother who has a narcissistic personality disorder, which developed from PTSD of being sexually abused as a child by family members. She also has brittle asthma which has almost killed her 4 times in the past year. I have my own pain condition to try and control and find it extremely difficult to be sympathetic to my mum for her illness and the struggles she has from the abuse but to separate it away from the personality disorder. I just didn’t know if anyone has ever been in a similar situation and any tips on how is best to deal with it.

Hi Leah, welcome to the forum

I’m afraid many of us have been manipulated by our mothers - me included!

However, it is possible to gradually change things for the better.
A lot depends on the situation, so apologies in advance for asking a few questions to help us give best advice.

How old you and mum are?
Do you live with mum?
Does mum own or rent her home?
Does mum have a Lifeline pendant alarm in case of an asthma attack?
How much help does she need (as opposed to want!) to manager her daily life.
Has she ever had counselling to help her get over the childhood trauma?