@Denis_1610 - I have created a new thread here - Tired of Caring. I still work part time but not sure how long for and the cretins next door are still as evil as ever!
@Melly1 - I will try and discuss it with her again. I think she is just too embarrassed and I don’t blame her. I would be the same in her position. I think she chooses not to tell me when she has had an accident because brother will shout at her and call her every name under the sun.
Sister is truly in for a shock. She’s been waited on hand and foot all her life. She won’t know what’s hit her. If they have a home or supported accommodation for people with selective autism, she needs to start applying and soon. When Mum is no more, I will have no connection to any of these awful siblings.