I sort of stopped coming on here after my mother passed away in April. I had cared for her for a number of years, She wanted to remain in her house rather than anything else. Am proud to say that I managed to make that possible for all but the last couple of days when hospital was unavoidable.
So this Christmas is the first without her. All manner of memories and emotions. Guilt about things & decisions I did that could have been made with more care especially if I upset my parents (they are only people after all!)
but good luck to all of you and thank you for being carers!
Remember you are āonlyā human too - you did the best you could at the time. You did very well to keep your Mum at home almost to the end. It wasnāt easy.
Wishing you a peaceful Christmas and a chance for new opportunities and new openings in the New Year ahead.
Hi @Hello_there - as regulars on āRoll Callā know my husband, Graham, died last week. We are in our 29th year together and this is my first ever Christmas without him or family. That means it will be very odd. I have his family and some friends ordering me to be with someone on Thursday and I have got quite firm. I will be here in our home with our dog, Buster and WITH GRAHAM as he will ALWAYS be with me while I keep him memory alive.
I wish you the most peaceful Christmas you could wish for yourself. Do whatever YOU feel is right for you and if that involves tears over happy memories then itās fine - Iāll be having a few!!! However, please try not to dwell on what might have been or āif only I hadā¦>ā as that never helps.
@Hello_there
I lost my lovely husband. He had strokes, vascular dementia and other health issues.
Unfortunately he needed to go into a nursing home. No choice.
Guilt kicked in many times
My daughter once said, what ever we do, if it works out or not, it comes from the right place, meaning our love for him. This applies to you Iām certain.
You were able to grant her wish and quite rightly proud.
Wishing you a peaceful time
You will find that lovely memories will return and other times will fade
@Hello_there ā¦.You did well to keep your mum in her home, she would have been very proud of you. The first anniversaries are always the hardest. Everyone is still here for you if you need support. Have a lovely Xmas too.
