My partner and I have been together nearly three years and he’s an ex Army veteran with multiple diagnoses including c-ptsd, depression. I knew this when we got together and we have our ups and downs but generally things have been good. He’s been through so much but he tries so hard to work through things and we love eachother.
Last weekend he put himself in a really dangerous situation with a general ‘f*** it’ attitude and I ended up having to call the police to find him.
I’ve taken time off work to make sure he’s OK and support him with getting GP appointments and further counselling stuffs… I have my own mental health stuffs mainly grief related. I’m really struggling with my emotions…anger/sadness/guilt etc…I know we’re both struggling but I feel like I’m drowning.
Hi @doberman_mum
Welcome to the forum.
That must’ve been an extremely frightening time for you.
Are you worried he may repeat such risky behaviour?
I hope the right support is arranged for him and in a timely manner.
Are you receiving help re your grief? When I lost my Dad in unexpected and horrible circumstances Cruse really helped me.
If the impact of his behaviour is seriously affecting you, then yes, you are definitely a carer. Non carers have no idea of how much the constant being on alert affects us. My son is brain damaged, has his own flat with carers part of each day, so in theory they are supposed to manage everything. In practice he rings me as I can understand his speech better and I’ll know what to do. One year his staff emailed me about 4 times when I was on holiday in Crete about his lawnmower! Last year I had a terrible nightmare about him when I was on holiday in Corfu, recovering from an illness. As carers, we are never truly free.