Hello
I lived with my best friend Ian for almost 25 years together, nothing sexual, best friends, we have and had pets together and all the same friends and most of the same hobbies and helped each other financially and with shopping and travel etc
In 2018 he was diagnosed with M.E chronic fatigue, he asked if I would register as his carer as I always enjoyed his company so I thought about it and in feb 2019 I agreed as I was helping him do more things than usual. He also that year diagnosed with Rhumatoid Arthritis and in a first floor flat made him breathless and I helped sort his medicine his food etc as carers do.
On 13 th May he wouldn’t wake up, I woke him a few times that day but said he was tired and stayed in bed after a couple of bad days of pain, then I had to call ambulance perform cpr and the ambulance tried for 15 mins and failed. I’ve lost my best friend, my family I always called him brother.
I called his aunt and she said she’s not next of kin (true) and can’t afford any it’s not her, so I have applied for social fund and a go fund me where all our friends donated most of the funeral costs, so it’s all organised but she’s threatening me with the police for theft asking for money I used it for the funeral.
Next because I’m not blood, nor in a relationship his estate, which was joint everything we shared for the house, for 25 years TVs computers dvds etc, well under £5000 only thing truly his is his car which is 12plus years old.
His bank accounts etc are still open as police took his phone on night he died because I’m not related by blood so I have no info from that and it’ll be password etc but I’ll need to close them.
How do you get a Confirmation so I can deal with his car and bank etc.l and is it expensive it’s such a mess, being his carer, living with him for 25 years as his best friend, like a marriage counts as nothing as he was estranged from his family also they never visited or talked to him.
I’m still so heartbroken the post mortum isn’t until 1st June, what can I do, I’ll be moving away also as can’t afford the rent for a 2 bedroom flat