Hi, My husband and I care for our nephew (hub’s sister’s adult son) who has learning disabilities and is relatively non verbal, though he does love to chatter We have him at our home 5 days a week where he has his own room and sleeps over 3 or 4 nights a week. We have 3 children at home aged 9-14… And now I’m going to pop over to the advice rooms
Hi JC and welcome,
Hub’s sister is very lucky to have you both helping out so much.
I’m a little concerned she’s taking a few liberties at the moment tho We’ll get it sorted tho, hopefully advice in here will make it easier
How did it come to helping out so much?
What are you looking for as advice?
What age is your nephew?
His sis moved back locally in Oct and brought the hours she’d been paying someone else with DP. Nephew is late 30s.
That’s not very fair on your own kids. A long term solution needs to be found.
We want to be the long term solution, it’s all good
Not if she is claiming Carers Allowance, and receiving maximum PIP etc. for her son, whilst only giving you the DP’s!
You are being taken advantage of!
I’d have thought with SS being involved and knowing full well how much he’s here that wouldn’t be the case?
You must meet the following requirements to be entitled to Carer’s Allowance: Spend at least 35 hours a week caring for someone (you do not need to live with them or be related) The person you care for receives a qualifying disability benefit. Be at least 16 years old.13 Apr 2021
If your sister in law is claiming carers allowance. Who do you think should be claiming the allowance?
I wanted to wish you a warm welcome to the forum and to highlight some of the options for connecting with fellow carers and for getting support from Carers UK.
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Your nephew is entitled to a lot of benefits, taken together there’s highest PIP, you should be given a significant proportion of that by SIL, and a share of his ESA etc. Subsidising your nephew is like taking money away from your own kids.
Hmm, I understand what you mean now…
I think brother and sister are going to need a little chat
Claiming carers allowance and no other work. A individual can get there NI stamp covered. So goes towards their numbers of years in order to claim their state pension. Is your husband getting/paying for a NI credit/stamp.
Does your nephew have a blue badge.
You can’t claim CA if you are getting Direct Payments, if they take you over the income limit.
However if SIL is on benefits, she can claim CA and then have entitlement not to look for work.
So she can sit at home and be paid to do nothing most of the time, as her son is with you!
As her son is an adult, he gets benefits in his own right.
Not just PIP, but income related benefits to, with a disability premium!
Probably £2-300 a week in total. If you don’t see any of this, she is keeping it all for herself!!!
If he is with you more than him, who is the DWP Appointee, i.e. where does all the correspondence go?
Pretty much everything goes thru his mum, we don’t deal with nephew’s finances at all, and his mailing/home address is with his mum. We have just gotten to the bottom of BR on the tax code, a letter to employer arrived at her house so she gave it straight to my hub instead of the accountant
No, he doesn’t have a blue badge, I was under the impression he did but it doesn’t look like it’s been applied for since the last expired.
Then get SIL to send off evidence of his disability (PIP proof) to the Council.#
Should be dealt with very quickly, about 2 weeks.
Hello…what an amazing job you are doing.
Will do It’s been a low priority thing as he’s not particularly physically challenged, just needs to be near a bathroom when he has to go, much like my mum but we’re looking into taking him on a family trip to Wales during summer hols, it could make life easier knowing we could pull up outside of a public loo.
Hello. It’s easier having him like this, in that he does go to his mum’s for weekends, like how my mum describes grandkids - lovely, coz you can hand them back