Hi guys,
I’m new to the forum, but I feel now is the best time to go outside my comfort zone and come and seek help and advice.
My partner and I have been together for 7 years and since the first year off our relationship he has suffered with depression and anxiety due to the loss of his sister and also not getting along with his dad and other family members and always being put down. He’s done amazing and has had highs and lows and has but has always come out the other end, initially I didn’t know how to deal with this and was quite closed off to be honest and wasn’t supportive as much as should have been.
To try and cut a long story short I have worked on myself and learned to support and be there more and say and do the right things.
My boyfriend has now gone through another spiral of depression and anxiety and after having dealt with it for so long and me always being the one working and providing for our family and constantly strugggling to even cope with it all I’m having a really hard time caring anymore? Or being sympathetic? Or don’t even want to hear it? Is this normal? I feel like he enjoys being this and likes the attention as I ask him to do things with me or for me to build on his confidence and build on us and himself and he doesn’t want to says he feels uncomfortable or might get stressed out by it. But then if he wants to go out or do anything he can quite easily and isn’t depressed anymore but is when it comes to doing stuff for me?
I’m confused, I’m lost, I’m struggling emotionally to be there for him as I feel this is just going round and round in circles and nothing ever changes and your not helping yourself or helping me to help you?
Anyone know what I’m trying to say or what I’m going through? Some support or advice or comfort just much appreciated.
Thanks