My precious husband died on 24 January - his funeral took place on 31 January. He had been ill for many years, beginning in 1999 with diagnosis leukaemia and over the years developing vascular dementia. I looked after him at home for many years until he needed care home where he lived for the last two years. I remained fully involved in his care and on good terms with the staff.
I think my feelings are confusing because of recent bereavement almost immediately followed by coronavirus pandemic, lockdown, etc.
I’ve notified Pensions Dept. but everywhere else is closed justnow besides which, I don’t really feel like tackling paperwork.
Violet, I was widowed when I was 54, my husband died in his sleep from a heart attack at the age of 58. Don’t worry about paperwork and long term plans too much right now. Put as much as you can in a lever arch file, in order of importance, and deal with ONE thing a day. It’s amazing how the pile goes down.
There is an online forum for widows and widowers called “Way Up”, it’s very friendly, you will find a lot of support. They organise outings etc. which can be very comforting, knowing you are with others who understand.
If there’s anything you would like to ask, feel free.
So sorry to hear about your husband.
It’s a very sad difficult time made worse by the coronavirus.
It may feel at the moment you will never get things in order. It does all come together, honestly.
11months now since I lost my hubby. I have actually ticked a few things off the list now. Miss him all of the time, that will never change, but I think of him at peace now. I’m sure eventually you will too, even if you don’t feel you will.