My wife of over 50 years has been disabled a long time and I have looked after her but is now needing home care. For all of our married life we have had separate bank accounts, we shared all expenses. Now my wife needs home care which she will have to fund from her own assets, I however now pay the council tax and all other household expenses, I have taken sums from her account to date to cover her share of these expenses. Currently I am taking on increasing care tasks. What is considered reasonable expenses that I could deduct from her account ?
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That’s a very difficult question to answer, there are no hard and fast rules about this sort of thing, as far as I’m aware.
If your wife has over about £23,000 in her own name, she is unlikely to get support from Social Services.
However, if she is very seriously disabled she may be entitled to NHS Continuing Healthcare, entirely free care.
Unfortunately, it’s very much a postcode lottery.
Do you have Power of Attorney? Is your wife capable of making her own decisions?
Is your name on your wife’s account?
I wasn’t allowed to take money from my husband’s account as it was in his name. We too had separate accounts and worked well for us until he became ill with strokes and vascular dementia. Too late sadly for power of attorney to be sorted as he lost capacity. I had to go down the court of protection route. Bank or utilities would not discuss anything with me until it was legally sorted. Fortunately direct debits were still paid. Hubby was in a nursing home.
My wife is at home , I have had power of Attorney for years.
Maybe contact the office of public guardianship, as you have power of attorney. They may be able to advise.