Caring for my Grandfather

Hi Everyone

My name is Matthew and i have been a carer for my Grandfather ,93 for the last 6 years

As much as it is satisfying being completely 100% here for him, as well as live in his house with him, It has been a massive challenge for myself both mentally,Physically,Psychologically as well with no support from anywhere or family, and as my carers income is so low i am now finding this role very very difficult as i suffer with a mental health condition myself.

Does anyone have any advice for me please as i have found very little support online, and i am struggling now myself.

Many Thanks


Hi Matthew, welcome to the forum.
I’m the other end of the M3 from you, in the New Forest.
You do NOT have to do this, you have a right to a good life, your own home, and family.

It makes my blood boil whenever I hear of grandchildren being used like sacrificial lambs by the rest of the family. I’ve been one too!! My brothers would visit mum once a year if she was lucky, one was only in Haslemere, and then they would tell me what more I should be doing for her, when I was disabled myself with a brain damaged child to look after!!!

Tell us a bit more about your grandfather.
What does he need help with?
Does he have a specific illness?
Does he own or rent his home?
Does he have over £23,000 in savings?

I’ll be back later.

Hi Matthew,

Wishing you a warm welcome to the forum.

Firstly, you need to take care of your own well-being. The fact you have asked for help is a good thing. I know first hand how difficult it can be being a carer for a grandparent Please know, you’re not alone, we are sure that many on here will understand exactly how you feel and offer support.

Carers UK are running online weekly meet ups for carers to take some time for themselves and chat to other carers. Feel free to join if you’d like to and there’s no pressure to share anything you don’t want to.

You can find information on how to register to our online meetups at the following pages:
Care for a Cuppa: Online meetups | Carers UK
Share and Learn: Share and Learn | Carers UK

Our Telephone Helpline is available on 0808 808 7777 from Monday to Friday, 9am – 6pm or you can contact us by email ([]

They also provide information and guidance to unpaid carers. This covers a range of subjects including:

Benefits and financial support
Your rights as a carer in the workplace
Carers’ assessments and how to get support in your caring role
Services available to carers and the people you care for

Best Wishes,