60% of dementia patients in care homes die in six months???
Weird! To say the least.
For a start, as Pet says, this is just NOT TRUE of many of our loved ones. My MIL has had ‘diagnosable’ dementia for 5 years, in a care home for four and a half…
I think you need to be very wary of confusing ‘cause’ with ‘correlation’. The implication of the startling statistic you were quoted is ‘if you put them in a care home they will die in six months because they are in a care home’…
ie, the implication that ‘putting’ them in a care home HASTENS their death, and that if you had kept them at home, they would NOT be ‘dead within six months’…
In fact, it’s FAR more likely to be a ‘correlation’ not a CAUSE. In other words, many of us ‘struggle on’ with caring for someone with dementia getting worse and worse and worse and ONLY when it becomes ‘impossible’ (or SOOOO stressful) looking after someone with DEEP dementia (ie, highly advanced!) do we ‘crack’ and say ‘I can’t do this any more, they HAVE to go into a care home’…
In other words, they only GO into a care home when they are VERY advanced with dementia, and so whether they are in the care home or at home, the ‘timeline’ to their dying is EXACTLY the same! It’s the DEMENTIA that kills them (it kills the ‘conscious mind’ then kills the rest of the brain, until the heart and breathing stop…). It is NOT the care home!
In fact, it is FAR more likely that being in a care home EXTENDS their life over what might be possible if they were at home. For a start, there will be a lot less chance of accidents (eg, falling downstairs, or just falling in general). Care homes for the mentally infirm will have nursing staff on duty all the time, again, a ‘safety measure’. Also, because life is lived ‘communally’ there will be much more mental stimulation for the patient, which helps to ‘keep the brain alive’.
In fact, the more I think about it, the more what that man said to you is absolutely deplorable! It seems to be deliberately ‘scaremongering’ and even ‘threatening’ (ie, ‘oh, don’t put your mum/dad in a care home - they’ll be dead in six months and it wil lbe YOUR FAULT’
I think he has an axe to grind - and it is the ‘we should be looking after our parents at home, ourselves, not abandoning them in care homes’…
Or, he’s being funded by the government who yes would LOVE us all to slave away for the pittance of Carers Allowance looking after our parents, rather than ‘putting them in a care home’ which the government would have to pay for it they don’t own their own house or flat!
All in all, I think it is a highly ‘inaccurate’ and ‘irresponsible’ and quite frankly biased and shameful thing to have told you! What POSSIBLE help could it have been to you???