My wife (63 has suffered from this on and off for most of her life, but recently there are fewer remissions. Her behavior is very challenging at times. It’s taking a bit of a toll on me, I could do with a chat with another in a similar situation.
Hi Kevin and welcome.
There’s quite a few on here in similar situations but not everyone posts all the time. While waiting for contacts, can I suggest you use the search box to search for relevant terms and bring up past threads?. Use a variety of words and spellings, e.g boarder BPD and bpd for example
Apart for the specifics of a caree with Borderline, how are you managing with some “me time”, breaks away, and looking after yourself generally?
Kr
MrsA
Hi, as a novice here Mrs A, I will seek out some hints, as for me time of an hour or more. Dismal failure. My career was London, SE based. Living in Cornwall, I am isolated and vulnerable as I am aware that I need to help my wife overcome her multiple suicide attempts,
HJey
Welcome. That sounds tough. Is your wife getting any other help/support for example from Social Services? Mental Health teams? It is horrible to feel alone in a situation like this.
I am carer to my Mum with Alzheimer’s and until recently my Dad with a neurological illness (he dies earlier this year). I can relate to feeling alone. The form has helped a lot.
Welcome and feel free to tell us a bit more.
Hi Kelvin.
My partner also has BPD and currently I’m really struggling with the amount of episodes he has and the longer time each episode lasts.
I was previously married for 22 years before being widowed and met my partner of 3 years 2 years after my husband died.
Currently my partner has withdrawn love, which is a recurrent theme and uses silence . There is also a degree of victim naming / shaming.
It takes a huge emotional toll both in him but also on me as I’m often treading on eggshells and waiting for the “ break up”.
The research always talks about how you should react / treat a BPD suffers but it’s so hard.
I take care of my daughter with BPD and a partner with a cardiovascular disease and he is an amputee and suffers with depression .
I dont know how to deal with this daily , its taking its toll .