Hello I am currently married to a man who has ashbergers which is desperately lonely he is selfish and doesn’t not consider me most of the time, it’s so very draining, I use to be a happy go lucky person and now I’m on anti depressants and resent him and my life most of the time.

Hi Lisa.

Welcome to an extremely quiet forum as I type.

My first thought … SUPPORT … both for your husband and yourself.

National Autism Society fits the bill :
Asperger syndrome

Also , an online community forum :

National Autistic Society - our Community

Others will be along to extend their welcomes , and provide other routes for you to follow … perhaps counseling ?

How old is he?
Did you know when you married him?

Hello and welcome!

Can he work? How old is he now? Have you had a needs assessment or not yet?