Any help, mum moving in!

Hi everyone I’m new to all of this.
My mum has recently been diagnosed with frontotemporal dementia. I have been caring for her on and off over the last couple of years but full time really since the beginning of the year. I am waiting for my Carter’s allowance claim to be approved.
So in our house there is me, hubby and our six amazing children. Mum will be moving in full time. Mum and dad are married but it’s just become way too much for my dad so she’s coming to me. She is only 66.
So we claim tax credits,working tax credits and a small amount of housing benefit. My husband works full time and I am a full time mum (and now career.)

When mum moves in will her income (state pension, small private pension, attendance allowance) affect our claims for the tax credits/housing benefit?

Any info would be amazing!
Is mum entitled to anything else? Are we?
I have financial power of attorney for mum.

Financially who do I need to tell that she’s moving in with us?

Thank you for any help offered.

Hi Karen,

I’m afraid I can’t advise you on the financial side of things, but I suggest you contact the helpline:

Our telephone Helpline is available on 0808 808 7777 from Monday to Friday, 9am – 6pm or you can contact us by email (>> )

Are you sure you are going to be able juggle caring for your Mum and your six children? How old are the children? Caring for someone with dementia is very difficult, particularly as their care needs increase. A lot of carers find caring to be a lot more demanding and stressful than they ever though possible.

Will your Dad be able to sit with your Mum to give you a break, enable you to attend parent’s evenings, do the school run, take the children out and about, have a holiday?


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Dear Karen_2203
Hi i volunteer for Carers UK and i am an online community host. Im sorry to hear about your family difficulties and i hope you get the advice and help you need from the forum.
So welcome to the forum. You are not alone on this forum and i am sure that many on here will understand exactly how you are feeling and will offer you the support that you need. Caring can be very lonely and the pandemic has made caring responsibilities challenging as many carers have been socially restricted and unable to attend social groups etc.
Carers UK are running two online weekly meet ups for carers and you can find the information on how to register at Care For A Cuppa:- Online meetups | Carers UK. The second online weekly meet up is called Share And Learn:-
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