I am trying to explain to this NHS lady about unpaid caring, she seems to think that i should contact social services and they will do everything.
My issue is that Social Services have cut services leaving the elderly/disabled with little help and support.
I am looking after my partner who is disabled and suffers from complex mental illness.
I do all the housework, cooking cleaning shopping you name it i do it, a normal married couple would share the household jobs, when you are married to someone disabled, of course they can’t.
I was looking after my friend, in effect i was responsible for 2 households.
The constant emotional worry, the constant fighting to get services, treatment for my partner, fighting with the benefits, the constant issues with medication, you have to order every month, then the medication can take 10 days to be dispensed in total, your partner almost running out every month.
my partner takes a lot of tablets but cannot remember so needs to be reminded every day.
I was looking after my friend who died last year, again the same issues, i gave a massive load of support to him but got zero unpaid carer support despite looking after multiple carees.
I am still grieving for my friend, still upset, having bad memory’s but having again problems trying to get bereavement support.
The covid situation isn’t helping at all , my partner worries and worries, every time she sees all the stockpiling news, worries there’s going to be no food left.
I am battling long term chronic illness myself but getting no support for that and no unpaid carer support.
Life really is difficult and you don’t just get help handed to you on a plate like this NHS lady thinks.
I read in one report that only 12 per cent of unpaid carers feel they are getting the support they need, but that report was before covid probably a lot of the support, day centres etc has been cut now.
Can anyone add to this, the fact that i am not getting any support, that i don’t ask for support, i have given up asking, what is the point of asking for services that don’t exist.
Tired, frustrated, fed up, depressed, feeling not supported, that’s thousands of unpaid carers.
And the GP should be helping as well, NO nothing to do with him, but i am looking after his patients and my health is suffering as a result.