Hello,
Recently, my mother in law and father in law passed away. They died within a few days of each other. Both were elderly and quite unwell. I miss them, but their deaths were not unexpected, although their joint passing was a shock.
My husband is in a care home. He has schizophrenia and autism. My eldest son is in supported living, close to my husband. He has the same diagnoses as my husband. I live with our youngest son (23), who has a cluster of mental health issues, including GAD and an eating disorder.
My husband is an only child, so I am arranging the funerals and seeing to other things. I am not the executor of the will, so at least I do not have all that responsibility.
I am just popping on the forum because I am finding things a bit difficult (which is quite expected), but I cannot really let this show. For example, my husband does not really believe his mother and step-father are dead. I do not know whether arranging for him to view the bodies would be helpful. He also seems to be obsessed that I am going to ‘disappear’ and I think this related to him processing his loss.
My eldest son seems very flat in his emotions, but he was not too close to his grandparents, so I can understand this. He wants to attend the funeral, so I will arrange this.
My youngest son reacts quite badly to changes and any stress, so I am trying to support him.
As I said, I am just posting to get rid of some of these feelings.
Thanks for reading