my wife has made really good progress. Christmas was really difficult as it was the first without her dad. but she made it through, of course she had low moments but even those she coped with so well. She is getting up on time every day, helping out so much more around the house. She has thrown herself into learning how to make her own meals (all be it with the microwave at the moment but its a real start) the washing up is done most days (and if she forgets its first on her list for the next day.)
she has been much better when we have been out. she still relies on me to help keep she safe, but she is trying to hold conversations while we are out and about. Ive seen her spend so many lovely hours with our daughter and they have painted, played tea sets, played dolls, read books and just been silly. I’ve been going to work my evening job with a sense of peace as she has handled bath and bed time every night. its been such a change.
she says she wants to make her dad proud and make herself proud of the wife and mother she is. honestly im over the moon.
I just need to think of a way to show her how much she means to me and make her see how proud i am of her. i tell her everyday, but being autistic she doesnt always remeber ive said it or she doesnt take it on board because its too routine.
Why don’t you make/buy/produce a special personal card. I know it might sound old fashioned in this day and age. I still send cards for differing occasions and people usual comment. How lovely what a nice surprise.
It’s sounds like you have done a sterling job of supporting your wife. It sounds like she is coping well and managing to be a great Mum despite her grief.
Since most people with autism are visual and literal, I think a carefully chosen and written card as suggested by Sunnydisposition would work. Or you could make a montage of photos of what you love and admire in your wife with captions or interspersed written messages and display it in a large frame. Alternatively record a video of you telling her how proud you are and why, (or even one of you holding up different pieces of paper with the words on - saw this on a film once - very romantic!)
PS Elaine, a very good friend bought me one of those - she is holding a puppy. It is treasured.