Dear Faye I can fully understand all your issues been there done that, bought the t shirt.
The amount of times I had to fill in the gaps as the carer didn’t turn up, turn up at the right time, turn up at all, dozens and dozens.
These care agencies are getting paid thousands and thousands of pounds to provide the care, it is their job not yours to provide the care. It is not your responsibility or your fault if the carers car breaks down.
There is a limit to how much the human body can cope you are working, lack of sleep AND looking after your dad, you are not superwoman, you just can’t do everything.
The hospital should have assessed your dad before discharge for CHC, not just discharged him as “unsteady on his feet and at risk of falls” did you say.
The council/Hospital seem to think reablement will work, oldest trick in the book trying to get ill and elderly people strong and independent, just doesn’t work, seen it time and time again.
Really someone needs to take a lead in this Hospital Pals, the District nurse or the GP and say look this isn’t working you have an exhausted carer run ragged.
I don’t know what the word is a case conference, all the professionals need to be there, talk it through.
As another carer said to me they all need to be locked in and sort out a solution to this. All these people are qualified experienced professionals being paid lots of money.
It really is appalling sending someone home with minimal care, you need a break from all this temporary respite?
It is just impossible to provide care basically 24 hours a day 365 days a year, you might not be caring all the time but the stress and worry is there all the time.
“Dad can’t sleep - he’s having problems breathing and hospital used to get him up at 4am for dialysis”
It is clear that your dad needs a greatly increased care package-CHC ASAP.