New here and let me introduce complex family

Hi all, i am a mother of three, all my children are now adults, how we got here i do not know, im married also and its so hard some days.

I have two adult sons who both have autism and both have communication disorder, one has hyperactivity but not enough for diagnosis of adhd. The other has asd with communication disorder, global development delay and extreme challenging behavior. I also have a daughter with mental health issues and complex eating disorder and just came out of supported living.

My husband has diabetes, ankylosing spondylitis with neuropathy and arthritis and has limited mobility.

This week my husband’s blood sugars dropped and i luckily had glucose handy to help and he was okay. Just hard moving him, hard to explain. My autistic son had a complete change of routine which we were only told a couple of days in advance which resulted in a meltdown and caused him to run in front of traffic, he ran off and i found out later he was not hit but he got to hospital after running away and i managed to catch him later, then was seen by mh services, in the meantime my other son saw him having a meltdown and this triggered him and also had a meltdown before and when in the hospital. Its been a long hard week.

Sorry for long post but thats my family in a nutshell. Thanks for reading. Would be interested to know anyone else who has more then one to care for.

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Welcome to the forum, being a multiple carer is so tough. My husband and I at one stage were caring in various ways for all four elderly disabled parents and our brain damaged son. At 50 we thought we were fit and well. My husband died in his sleep from a massive heart attack when he was 58. At 54 I was diagnosed with kidney cancer and had major surgery. 3 months after my husband died I was driving his Range Rover when I was hit head on. My knees were ruined, I couldn’t walk properly for 5 years until I had knee replacements. I was so relieved that my disabled son had moved into residential care after college, I knew whatever happened to me he had a life away from home (but came home very regularly).
What support are you currently getting for your children?
Is anyone talking to you about future plans?
Is any Emergency Care Plan in place?
My mum had a rare back problem (hyperostosis/Forestiers Disease) making her very bent, similar to spondylosis. How much is he able to help you?
When did you last have a proper holiday?

Hi @Quackersmum

welcome to the forum.

Goodness, what a tough week you have had.

I care for one person with autism, related LD and health needs and that’s enough for me.